Relationship Power Dynamics

He must be sensitive to the power dynamics of every relationship.

 As a man he is born to be a leader. But for a true leader to emerge there must be competition. Every part of his physical and genetic makeup is designed for competition and survival in a hostile environment. He is not prone to quitting. He is made for fighting and pushing against the odds. He is a tenacious winner and persistent in fighting for what he wants.

He is a descendant of warriors. His ancestors died on the battlefields of seven continents. They died exploring the hidden secrets of the dense jungles. They collapsed under the scorching heat of unforgiving deserts. They succumbed to the incurable diseases which they were exposed to. They were slaughtered in wars and struggles with other men. Their blood flowed freely so that others could survive. That is why he is here today. He is a man. He is designed to be in control.

You intuitively know what is in your control and what is not when it comes to relationships with the opposite sex. You know when her influence is above and beyond what you can manage. There is a point when your voice gets drowned out and it can no longer be heard. It is at this point that your control is lost. No words are spoken between you and it may never be discussed but you know it as a fact. The power dynamics have changed. She is in control. She is in the driver's seat.

What tools are available for a man to avoid this situation? There are many. The greatest of all is silence. Avoid responding in words. Choose to respond in your actions. Refuse to be moved by outbursts of emotion. As often as possible be without emotions. Hide your emotions with all the diligence and skill of a pirate hiding his treasures. Be definite in your decisions. Be firm in your convictions. Build walls of assurance around you and you will retain control as surely as a sponge retains water. In a crazy twist of irony every woman desires to be controlled. She yearns for a man who will to control her. Yet, if you fail to control her, she will have no choice but to control you.